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Stop choosing pain and calling it love.
Trauma and Dating — Why Do I Keep Choosing Pain and Calling It Love?
A powerful, faith-rooted guide to recognizing relationship patterns, understanding the root of the pain, and walking in freedom and wisdom.
About the Book
More than a book — a turning point
Trauma and Dating is for anyone who has ever wondered why the same heartbreak keeps finding them. With honesty, warmth, and clinical insight rooted in faith, Shana Siplin unpacks the connection between past wounds and present patterns — and offers a clear path forward.
This isn't about blame or quick fixes. It's about understanding yourself deeply enough to choose differently, love healthier, and finally break the cycle.
Who It's For
Written for you if…
- Anyone who keeps repeating painful relationship cycles
- Singles preparing for healthy, purposeful love
- Women healing from heartbreak or past trauma
- Leaders, mentors, and ministries walking with others
What You'll Gain
From insight to freedom
See the pattern clearly
Recognize the relationship cycles quietly shaping your choices — and where they truly begin.
Heal the root
Understand how past trauma influences present love, so you can respond instead of repeat.
Build healthy boundaries
Learn to set and hold boundaries that protect your peace without closing your heart.
Walk in wholeness
Move from surviving relationships to choosing them from a place of freedom and wisdom.
Key Takeaways
What you'll walk away with
- How to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns
- Where the pain really comes from
- How past trauma shapes present choices
- The difference between attachment and love
- How to set and hold healthy boundaries
- Practical steps toward freedom and wholeness
Praise & Endorsements
What readers are saying
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“A tender, truth-telling guide that names what so many of us have felt but never had words for.”
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“Shana blends faith, compassion, and hard-won wisdom into pages that feel like a conversation with a trusted friend.”
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“Practical without being clinical. This book meets you in the pain and walks you toward freedom.”
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